What I Know Now
I have discovered the key to living a fulfilling life is to love yourself without conditions, in doing so you are able to open yourself to love others without conditions…….you unlock channels to complete healing and wholeness… Excerpts from Change Is An Inside Job. To purchase book or register for 12 step program visit www.changeisaninsidejob.com.
Blessings
Melissa Bass
Abundant Living Coach
Add a comment January 6, 2011
What Are You In RELATIONship with?
As you reflect on your current relation*ship look at it as seeing what core issues you are in relation with.
In my morning meditation and reflection I had an aha moment when I was reflecting on a past recent relation*ship. I realized the relation was not so much about the person but my three core issues that I thought I had worked through. These would be the core issues of feeling like I am not enough, not valuable and not worthy. These are issues I had struggled with for most of my life. So as I continued to reflect on a recent relation*ship I realized that is exactly the issues the relation*ship brought back to my awareness these issues was showing up in the relation as not having enough time to spend with me, not putting me as a priority, not valuing my wants, needs and feelings. Can you see how that would show up to a person that have core issues of being not worthy, not valuable or not enough to be put first, not valuable enough for my needs, wants or feelings to be valued and not being enough to spend time with. Wow I have to take a deep breath here!!! So the lesson came up again to first see how much I have healed in relation to these three core issues and then to see what choice I was going to make (choose me or choose the issues (illusions)).
The outcome:
- I was able to acknowledge these issues sooner rather than later in the relationship;
- I was able to make the connection that it was not about the person but about my relation with the three core issues;
- acknowledge that the three core issues were still a part of me but was no longer me and was no longer serving my highest and greatest good;
- made a conscious effort to end the relation with the three core issues and move on to a healthier relation.
SO I ask the question again What Are You in RELATIONship with? Take the time to get clear and see what issues you are in relation with to do your healing to move to a healthier place. Do that mean you move out of relation with the person you are IN-relationship with=not necessary it mean you work through those issues and if you find the relation is no longer serving your highest and greatest good then you have the make the decision as to what is best for you!!!
Until Next Time!
Many Blessings
Melissa Bass
Abundant Living Coach
www.changeisaninsidejob.com
When you show up AUTHENTICALLY great miracles happen!!!
Add a comment December 31, 2010
Tags: abundant, authentic, relationships
What I Know Now
I know now that there is learning and a lesson with every person you come in contact with. …….You have to look at what you are to learn out of the experience…. this can be even through a child. Start looking for the lesson in each experience….
Excerpts from “Change Is An Inside Job”
To purchase book or sign up for Change Is An Inside Job 12 Step Program visit :www.changeisaninsidejob
Melissa Bass
Abundant Living Coach
Add a comment December 28, 2010
What I know for sure
I know now that to be in love with someone does not mean you have to lose yourself that you do not have to put your feelings on hold. I know life is going to go by whether you live it being your true self or whether you try to live it through someone’s eyes……..
Excerpt from “Change Is An Inside Job”.
To purchase book or sign up for “Change Is An Inside Job”-12 step Program visit:
http://www.changeisaninsidejob.com
Melissa Bass
Expert Abuse Coach
BE the change you want to see in the world!
Raising the vibration of the planet one soul at a time!!
Add a comment April 23, 2010
Acknowledging feelings within
“There are some residual feelings from my past that I acknowledge and am aware of some days. The worse thing to do would be to throw those feelings underneath a rug and pretend they do not exist. I put the light on them because one thing I learned throughout this entire process is that if a feeling is there trying to hide it will not make it go away. You only delay dealing with it.”
excerpts from book “Change Is An Inside Job”
To read more order the book through the following link or sign up for the next upcoming workshop: http://www.changeisaninsidejob.com.
Until Next Time
Melissa Bass
Expert Abuse Coach
Add a comment April 11, 2010
Making changes from within
“The best way I found to make the change that was needed within was to completely surrender it all, not focus on what I would lose, or how the out come would be, but to just surrender and let it go. Things will always work out the way they are supposed to work out………..”
excerpts from “Change Is An Inside Job”
Until Next Time
BE the change you want to see in the world!
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Melissa Bass
Expert Abuse Coach
Raising the vibration of the planet one soul at a time
Add a comment April 5, 2010
Tags: Making the change from within
